How Kindness Can Help You Overcome Social Anxiety
How will it help your social anxiety if you help people in need?
If you help people in need, you will start to feel good about yourself. And when you start to feel good about yourself, you will start to see yourself as a person who deserves to be free of social anxiety.
To feel good about yourself, help people in need every day. Move your focus from social anxiety to kindness. I’ve listed some ideas below to get you started. Pick and choose what you like or create your own list! The idea is simply to be on the lookout for ways that you can help people.
Make the first email you send out for your day a complimentary one. You could simply write, “Thanks for being a good friend.” Everyone appreciates a sincere compliment, and you never know whose day you might turn around with the right words.
Send Postcards or Articles
Send someone a postcard that shows you are thinking about them. Send someone an article that made you think of him or her. I have a relative who sends me articles that she thinks I will like, and I always appreciate the gesture.
Send Random Texts
Send someone a random text to tell them what you appreciate about them. Pick someone who might not be on a daily text basis with you, and send a message out of the blue. I love to get texts from people who I haven’t heard from in a while.
Be kind to yourself by writing down 3 things you are grateful for each day. Notice how your perspective changes when you are grateful for what you have instead of worrying about what you don’t. If you want to do this for 31 days, I have a free Gratitude Journal of the resource library. Sign up at the bottom of this post to get your copy.
Learn the names of people you see every day and greet them by name. Most people like to hear their names—it shows that you are interested and makes them feel special. Plus, what socially anxious person would be so bold as to use someone’s name? Using names shows you are confident. Try it.
Check in on People
Say “hi” to someone just to check in on how they are doing if you haven’t hard anything in a while. Don’t overthink this or worry that they don’t want to hear from you. You aren’t asking for anything in return. Choose someone who might have been through a hard time lately and could use the “check-in.”
Post anonymous signs of encouragement such as “This is a reminder: You are amazing” at the water cooler at work or another public place you frequent. Leave a post-it note on a restroom mirror that says “You are beautiful!” You never know how your kindness might make someone feel.
Paint small rocks with inspirational words and give them out to people in need of a boost. Or, leave them around your city or town for random people to find. You could brighten someone’s day.
Write Love Notes
Write a love note and hide it somewhere your partner will find it, like in a book she is reading. If you’re a parent, do this with your kids. I like to cut my kids sandwiches into special shapes like hearts to let them know I am thinking about them.
Be a Good Listener
Listen to what people say. If they mention an important upcoming event, write it down in your calendar and follow-up on that day. You will be remembered for your kind thoughts and good memory.
That’s really it! There’s isn’t a lot involved in spreading kindness or trying to help people in need in order to reduce your social anxiety. The best thing is that it will force you out of your comfort zone and into talking and connecting with people.
What do you think? Do you appreciate it when other people help you during times of need? Do you think helping others could help to reduce your social anxiety?