Don’t Quit Just Because You’re Feeling Down
Don’t quit! I was having a bad night, and the words “I’m not OK” kept running through my head. In our society, we find it so hard to say what we are really thinking. When you live with mental health issues, in particular, you are expected not to discuss them and to put on the front that you’re “OK.”
It’s unfortunate but true. We all wear personas to the world that hide our true feelings. But there’s a difference between pretending to be okay and actually wanting to quit.
I know you’ve probably hid your true feelings a million times, but were there days when you had just had it and wanted to quit, well, everything?
I know we’ve all been there, and so I wanted to explore the notions of quitting, not being okay, and how to know when to do what with your future.
Are You Ok?
How many times has someone asked you how you were and you said, “good,” “fine,” or the one I know is grammatically correct but that sounds the least sincere to me, “I’m well.”
If you were ever to say, “I’m not OK” what would the other person say? When is it ever OK to say you’re not OK? Why do we have to get to the end of our metaphorical rope before we can admit that?
Don’t Quit Poem
So I didn’t write this poem, but it kept running through my head. The poem basically states that things will go wrong, but you can’t quit. You’ll run out of money, you’ll get tired, life won’t go as you planned.
But if you quit too early, you miss out on the end, and you might have been much closer to success than you could have ever imagined. It might seem like you are making such slow progress, but the goal that you are seeking might be so much closer than you realize.
When You Quit
What happens when you quit? Multiple things. You teach yourself that you are a quitter. You teach yourself to quit again in the future. And you never realize just how close you were to getting it right. We can’t succeed without failure. Success is what comes from learning from our failures.
Don’t Quit Because of Social Anxiety
I know how badly you want to quit sometimes because of your social anxiety. You probably already do it all the time: you get so close to doing something and then just give up. That could be as simple as saying hi to a neighbor or as complex as applying for a new job (because your current one is just holding you back, let’s be honest).
When Things Are the Worst
The poem ends with the notion that its when things seem the absolute worst that you must not quit. This is probably contrary to everything your mind is telling you. This is too hard. I’m too scared. People will judge me. I will fail. I will be failure.
A New Attitude
Tell that voice in your head that you’re not listening to it anymore. It’s lying to you and holding you back. Instead, I want you to make a commitment to follow through on what you started, and remind yourself of why you started. Try to distinguish between your intuition and the anxious voice in your head. Which one are you listening to? Which one should you be listening to?
When to Quit
But, when should you actually quit? If your reasons are sound, logical, reasoned, and not filled with emotion. In fact, it’s been said that you should never quit something on a bad day.
Instead, wait until you have a good day, and then decide if you should quit. This helps to take emotion out of your decision. It ensures that your judgment is not clouded by the bad day that you had.
You are then free to quit if all signs are pointing to the path you are taking just not being the right one. Only you can decide whether that is the case.
When You’re Not Okay
How about you? How do you cope with a bad day and how do you know when it’s time to quit something? Feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts.
And if you’re really struggling, I suggest reaching out for help. If you have local resources that’s a great place to start. If not, I have used and recommend the online therapy service Betterhelp.
Through this service, you can talk to a therapist via phone, email, or video chat. This is also perfect if you have social anxiety and can’t muster the courage to go see someone in person.