How to Take a Comfort Zone Challenge
I know what you’re thinking. I don’t want to leave my comfort zone, it is what keeps me safe. That may be true, but then why are you here? Maybe you really want to try a comfort zone challenge?
If you feel like social anxiety is holding you back in some way, then taking a comfort zone challenge a little bit at a time is going to help.
I’m not talking about going to do Karaoke this weekend. Start small and build from there. Here are 50 ideas to get you thinking about how to escape your comfort zone.
How to Get Started
1. Give a compliment to someone who intimidates you or someone in a position of authority over you.
2. Play the music in your car really loud so that other people can hear it. Sing along if you dare, really loud.
3. Eat in a restaurant by yourself. Nobody cares!
4. Have a difficult conversation with someone about a topic that you’ve been avoiding.
5. Take a new fitness class that you’ve been putting off because of anxiety about other people watching you.
6. Ask someone on a date who you’ve been wanting to ask but haven’t had the courage.
7. Ride a mechanical bull. You might want to build up to this one!
8. Sign up for an improv class. There are often classes specifically designed for overcoming social anxiety.
9. Attend a costume party at Halloween or for some other fun occasion.
10. Sing Karaoke. Pick a song you like and do the best you can, but don’t worry too much because nobody does well at Karaoke. It’s just supposed to be fun (and kind of funny).
11. Make a fool of yourself on a public dance floor. Dance like Elaine Benes in Seinfeld or try out some dance moves that you have far from perfected.
12. Apply for a job that intimidates you or that you don’t think you’ll get.
13. Invite someone to lunch who you’d love to have a conversation with.
14. Start a conversation with a stranger in a shop or other public place.
15. Attend a Meetup group for social anxiety.
16. Perform some type of public speaking. This could be as simple as giving a toast.
17. Make a new friend. Offer to do something to help someone and take it from there.
18. Lead instead of follow. For once, state your opinion instead of letting everyone else decide.
19. Purposefully live out your most embarrassing scenario and get it over with (you’ll live!)
20. Wear clothing that’s a little different than what you would normally wear. If you really want to challenge yourself, sign up for the Style Challenges at Get Your Pretty On (seriously, I know it’s just clothing but it’s life-changing!).
21. Get a tattoo. Choose your favorite quote or something you can live with for a long time.
22. Smile at everyone you see for an entire day.
23. Go to a movie by yourself and laugh out loud at the funny scenes.
24. Try a new hobby or sport that you’ve wanted to try but have been too anxious.
25. Spend a day focusing on being kind to others. Notice how it eventually spills over into being more kind to yourself.
26. Leave an unexpected note for someone.
27. Take a different route to work.
28. Sit in a different spot than where you usually sit. If you always sit at the back of the class, go to the middle or the front.
29. Wear something you purchased but haven’t worn yet.
30. Tell someone they are interesting and give a reason why.
(Watch this TED Talk from Jia Jiang who took a huge comfort zone challenge and tried to get people to say no to him for 100 days)
31. Go somewhere new to eat.
32. Start a blog.
33. Attend a laughter yoga class.
34. Apply to a job in a completely new field.
35. Volunteer for a charity.
36. Start a business.
37. Walk into a room with confidence.
38. Speak in a loud and clear voice.
39. Make a point of making eye contact when you talk to people.
40. Tell a story at a party.
41. Make what you think is a scary decision but that feels right.
42. Choose to be yourself instead of who you think people want you to be.
43. Be compassionate and accepting of others no matter what.
44. Focus on what you did right for a day.
46. Ask for help.
47. Stand up for yourself.
48. Speak in a group conversation.
49. Participate in a class discussion.
50. Say hello to someone you find attractive.