A List of 30 Positive Affirmations to Help You Overcome Social Anxiety
Positive affirmations for social anxiety are ways of talking to yourself that highlight your good qualities instead of what is wrong about you. We know that negative thoughts have an impact on your anxiety, so it makes sense that positive thoughts could also influence how you feel.
How Positive Affirmations for Social Anxiety Work
Imagine if someone followed you around all day and said nasty things about you. Now imagine that same person followed you around and said nice things. In each case, how would you feel by the end of the day? Positive affirmations are helpful in that they break the habit of thinking negatively and help you think better things about yourself.
How to Choose Positive Affirmations for Social Anxiety
When you are first starting out with affirmations, it’s best to choose ones that don’t feel so completely foreign that they highlight what you perceive to be your faults. This will be different for each person. Choose the ones that seem to be true now or that you somewhat believe.
Positive affirmations should be in present tense and focus on positive things. They should be simple, short, and easy to remember.
Each morning, choose one affirmation that you will say to yourself that day. If that affirmation feels good to you, continue to use it for as many days as you wish, until you switch to another.
It might feel weird at first, but with time your brain is forging new pathways that will make positive thoughts easier.
How frequently do you say negative things to yourself? Use affirmations that often, even if it means saying the one you have chosen hundreds of times in a day. Any time you feel social anxiety creep in or negative thoughts in your head, say your affirmation.
Positive Affirmations for Social Anxiety
Start by choosing affirmations from this list.
You can also create your own that resonate with you. Do that by choosing 10 things about your life that you don’t like. Then, write affirmations that express the opposite of those facts.
In addition to saying affirmations out loud, you can also practice writing them out on paper and reading them back slowly to yourself.
When you say an affirmation, try to find confirmation that it is true. It can be the smallest thing, but it helps you to believe it.
1. I let go of things I can’t control.
2. I deserve to live my best life.
3. Meeting new people is fun.
4. I am confident.
5. I am calm.
6. I am connected to people.
7. Relationships help me grow.
8. I am powerful.
9. I am unstoppable.
10. I have lots to offer.
11. I love and accept myself.
12. People love me.
13. I relate to others easily.
14. I am good at talking to people.
15. I am comfortable in a group.
16. I have high self-esteem.
17. I am an interesting person.
18. I am a friendly person.
19. I have lots to talk about.
20. I deserve love.
21. I deserve friendship.
22. I deserve to feel calm.
23. I deserve a good career.
24. I radiate love and happiness.
25. My possibilities are endless.
26. I am comfortable talking to people I don’t know.
27. I have a unique spirit.
28. Anything is possible.
29. I handle social situations with ease.
30. I have so much to offer.
If you find some of these too much of a stretch, just change the wording a bit. For example, change “I am comfortable talking to people I don’t know” to “I am choosing to become more comfortable talking to people I don’t know.”
That’s it! Now choose some to get started with and make them part of your daily routine. Doing this will make it much more obvious when your negative self-talk starts up.
If you notice every time you say an affirmation it makes you feel bad—STOP! It means the affirmation is too much of a stretch for you and is highlighting what you think are your problems. Dial it down a bit to something that seems more realistic and then gradually work your way back up.
In addition to affirmations for social anxiety, consider generating some for whatever particular problem you are experiencing, be it performance anxiety, making new friends, or being in a relationship.
Finally, if you’re convinced affirmations won’t help you, try them out anyway. What is the worst that could happen? Telling yourself good things has to be a good thing for your brain.